Ever had a bad day? I mean a really bad day, where nothing seems to go right no matter what you do. Today was that day for me. It started bad and went downhill from there. With every bad thing that happened I tried not to let it bring me down... but it did.
It seems like bad days are inevitable. Reminds me of one of my favorite children's books- Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. For those of you who haven't read it (or don't remember it) Alexander has a day quite like mine where nothing seems to go right for him. Through the book when things are going wrong he says he thinks he'll just move to Austrailia. Today I was Alexander and all I wanted was to move to Austrailia.
Bad days for me always seem to start with waking up late. Today was no exception. Waking up with thirty minutes to get you and your child ready to leave is damn near impossible. But I managed by cutting a few corners... which after getting to work I realised one happened to be brushing my teeth. Great.
Today there were tears, some anger, a few choice words, and a feel of despair.
My dad always has some sort of advice whether you want it or not. Today he says to me "Some days peanuts, some days shells". At first I didn't get it. Then it hit me. You can't always get peanuts everyday. Some days there are going to be shells. After hearing this I tried to find the good in today. And alas some good was found.
For one thing, when you take lunch really late in the day it makes the last few hours fly by. And when you work a job where you HAVE to be happy it really does become contagious and you ultimately become a little less grumpy.
Of course my loving wonderful husband stepped in to help save the day. Dinner was cooked when I came home and a bag of mini peanut butter cups awaited my arrival. Bless him.
Some days after finding a bunch of shells there may just be a few peanuts waiting to be found if you look hard enough.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Monday, January 31, 2011
Where's my magic wand?
I have come to the conclusion that to keep a clean house while working full time and raising a family one must have a magic wand! I don't understand how people, like for instance my mother, can work, clean house, raise a family, and still put dinner on the table! Can anyone say "June Cleaver"? I mean really, come on... There's a delicate balance and I'm still searching for it.
Growing up I took advantage of my mother's ability to be Super Woman and single handedly keep a smooth running house. We'll call her "June" for all intents and purposes. June never ceased in doing it all. I remember the house always being spotless. Dinner always being cooked. Laundry always folded and put away. How did June manage this? Funny thing is, I don't remember her spending her days slaving away either. Its like she had a magic wand that I never knew about. Poof. Chores finished.
I haven't always been the cleanest person. Okay, okay, I'm a slob. But when I moved into my brand new apartment in Port Saint Lucie it was spotless! I worked full time and kept an imaculate house. I even used to mop just about every day. Yet now I can't seem to find the time or energy to do the dinner dishes.
What changed?
Well for one I work daytime hours now. In PSL I bartended so I generally didn't work till 4pm. Now I work full time day hours. Of course thats no excuse though because I have to admit there are days I don't go in till mid-morning. And of course since I work day time hours, I'm home by 6:30pm. Doesn't sound too bad does it? Then why isn't my house clean?
Then there is the husband and child I've added to the mix. And its not that they're dirty or make messes. In fact I'm probably the messiest in the house. I guess I just find it hard to want to get off work and spend my time cleaning instead of spending time with my family.
Maybe thats it. When I lived in PSL maybe I didn't have anything I'd rather do so I just cleaned and now I'd much rather bathe my daughter or cuddle on the couch with my hubby. I guess that is the balance. The dishes will be there tomorrow. The laundry can wait. And really, who mops their floors religiously? My balance is knowing that I'm spending time with my family and enjoying them.
Mama Stone
Growing up I took advantage of my mother's ability to be Super Woman and single handedly keep a smooth running house. We'll call her "June" for all intents and purposes. June never ceased in doing it all. I remember the house always being spotless. Dinner always being cooked. Laundry always folded and put away. How did June manage this? Funny thing is, I don't remember her spending her days slaving away either. Its like she had a magic wand that I never knew about. Poof. Chores finished.
I haven't always been the cleanest person. Okay, okay, I'm a slob. But when I moved into my brand new apartment in Port Saint Lucie it was spotless! I worked full time and kept an imaculate house. I even used to mop just about every day. Yet now I can't seem to find the time or energy to do the dinner dishes.
What changed?
Well for one I work daytime hours now. In PSL I bartended so I generally didn't work till 4pm. Now I work full time day hours. Of course thats no excuse though because I have to admit there are days I don't go in till mid-morning. And of course since I work day time hours, I'm home by 6:30pm. Doesn't sound too bad does it? Then why isn't my house clean?
Then there is the husband and child I've added to the mix. And its not that they're dirty or make messes. In fact I'm probably the messiest in the house. I guess I just find it hard to want to get off work and spend my time cleaning instead of spending time with my family.
Maybe thats it. When I lived in PSL maybe I didn't have anything I'd rather do so I just cleaned and now I'd much rather bathe my daughter or cuddle on the couch with my hubby. I guess that is the balance. The dishes will be there tomorrow. The laundry can wait. And really, who mops their floors religiously? My balance is knowing that I'm spending time with my family and enjoying them.
Mama Stone
Sunday, January 30, 2011
How it came to be...
I've always enjoyed writing; Always wanted a journal, which I guess is now an outdated term, to jot down my thoughts, emotions and just good ol' ramblins. I've started these things a thousand different times, some paper & some online, but have never really suceeded in keeping them going. Just seemed to get side tracked and never return.
My goal by writing this blog is to simply have an outlet for whatever my mind is keeping inside, scary to think this will hold what my mind is thinking! My life has changed in so many ways since the last time I sat down to write anything. I'm married now. I have a daughter now. Life is busy.
Well, who am I?
I'm a twenty something modern woman. What the hell does that mean? Makes me laugh just writing it. I guess I would define it as just being an off the cuff individual. I wouldn't say feminist or anything like that. I just think I'm more of a "now-a-days" kinda girl. Although I do sometimes believe I was born in the wrong era, but thats a whole nother blog.
I work full-time as an assistant manager at a fashion retailer. I love my job. Its fun, exciting and every day is something new! Not to mention its like being someone's fashion consultant everyday! I never knew what I wanted to do in life. I took a few college courses, didn't really fit me honestly. I'm not the type of person who believes that college is always best. You can't learn everything about life in a book, and half the things you learn in a book is wrong any how! I kind of "fell" into my job. After a string of bartending jobs I moved to Montana and decided to look for something new, about a year later I started working at the store and worked my way up. I'm hoping to be the manager within the next couple of years, maybe sooner.
I'm married to the most wonderful man. I know every wife says that, but I honestly mean it. He's a great guy! I've had a few relationships that haven't quite turned out like the fairytale in my head (face it, who hasn't). After a five year relationship with Mr.Wrong I discovered what happiness truely is in love- honesty, both with each other and with yourself. I have never been able to be completely honest on both of those parts in past relationships. And looking back this is where it all went wrong. But the day I met Q was the day I made a change. So cliche but so true. Every thing has always been different with us. They say when you find the one "You just know" and its true. It can't be explained and it definately can't be forced. It just happens. Its so natural and pure that there's nothing else to call it other than fate.
I have a daughter who was just born the past year. She's brought so much meaning to my life in just the 3 months she's been alive. I always knew I wanted kids but the timing never seemed "right". About a year after being together and deciding to get married Q and I made the choice to have a baby. The timing was perfect. On Feburary 5th, 2010 I found out I was pregnant- that I can honestly say was the day my life changed and I never looked back. And on October 22nd, 2010 Lil Miss entered the world, screaming, and I found such a peace about life. Funny how such a little person changes who you are forever.
With everything that has happened in my life, I guess I now feel like putting it in black and white. Its time. Maybe some one will read this and relate. Maybe not. Only time will tell.
Mama Stone
My goal by writing this blog is to simply have an outlet for whatever my mind is keeping inside, scary to think this will hold what my mind is thinking! My life has changed in so many ways since the last time I sat down to write anything. I'm married now. I have a daughter now. Life is busy.
Well, who am I?
I'm a twenty something modern woman. What the hell does that mean? Makes me laugh just writing it. I guess I would define it as just being an off the cuff individual. I wouldn't say feminist or anything like that. I just think I'm more of a "now-a-days" kinda girl. Although I do sometimes believe I was born in the wrong era, but thats a whole nother blog.
I work full-time as an assistant manager at a fashion retailer. I love my job. Its fun, exciting and every day is something new! Not to mention its like being someone's fashion consultant everyday! I never knew what I wanted to do in life. I took a few college courses, didn't really fit me honestly. I'm not the type of person who believes that college is always best. You can't learn everything about life in a book, and half the things you learn in a book is wrong any how! I kind of "fell" into my job. After a string of bartending jobs I moved to Montana and decided to look for something new, about a year later I started working at the store and worked my way up. I'm hoping to be the manager within the next couple of years, maybe sooner.
I'm married to the most wonderful man. I know every wife says that, but I honestly mean it. He's a great guy! I've had a few relationships that haven't quite turned out like the fairytale in my head (face it, who hasn't). After a five year relationship with Mr.Wrong I discovered what happiness truely is in love- honesty, both with each other and with yourself. I have never been able to be completely honest on both of those parts in past relationships. And looking back this is where it all went wrong. But the day I met Q was the day I made a change. So cliche but so true. Every thing has always been different with us. They say when you find the one "You just know" and its true. It can't be explained and it definately can't be forced. It just happens. Its so natural and pure that there's nothing else to call it other than fate.
I have a daughter who was just born the past year. She's brought so much meaning to my life in just the 3 months she's been alive. I always knew I wanted kids but the timing never seemed "right". About a year after being together and deciding to get married Q and I made the choice to have a baby. The timing was perfect. On Feburary 5th, 2010 I found out I was pregnant- that I can honestly say was the day my life changed and I never looked back. And on October 22nd, 2010 Lil Miss entered the world, screaming, and I found such a peace about life. Funny how such a little person changes who you are forever.
With everything that has happened in my life, I guess I now feel like putting it in black and white. Its time. Maybe some one will read this and relate. Maybe not. Only time will tell.
Mama Stone
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